By: Cheryl Chiew //
With COVID-19 disrupting our everyday lives, we’ve had to adapt to a new normal and this includes adjustments to how we date. If you don’t live with your partner, you’re probably dealing with how the lockdown has effectively turned your relationship into a long-distance one.
While 2020 has become all about social distancing, it doesn’t mean we have to keep our loved ones at an (emotional) arm’s length. Using Gary Chapman’s ideas on the love languages, here are 5 quarantine date ideas to make sure your partner’s needs for love and affection are best fulfilled during the lockdown.
What are the 5 love languages?
- Words of Affirmation
- Physical Touch
- Receiving Gifts
- Quality Time
- Acts of Service
Date 1: Talk through your windows
A man from Minnesota went viral on Facebook for pulling up daily outside his father’s senior living community room’s window. He’d call and chat with his dad while looking at him through the glass. If you and your boo live in the same city, have one of you drive over to the other’s house to talk. This way you can spend some quality time IRL while social distancing responsibly.
Perfect if your love language is: Quality Time, Words of Affirmation; possibly Acts of Service
Date 2: Run errands by going online shopping together
Instead of browsing physical grocery aisles, browse your favourite online store together. Either get a week’s worth of food together, or swap shopping lists with your partner and fill up each other’s carts.
If you don’t really have anything to buy, you could play a game of ‘What can I get for $2?’ I used to do it in physical grocery stores and have taken the game online by scouring grocery websites for the most ridiculous or value for money item I can get. Don’t ‘cheat’ by using filters. The one who finds the silliest item wins!
Perfect if your love language is: Quality Time; possibly Acts of Service and Receiving Gifts
Date 3: Indulge in a DIY spa night
Set the mood by dimming the lights, lighting scented candles and playing some soft piano music. Take a nice hot shower and get into your comfy cute PJs. Put on a face mask, work body lotion into your skin, do your nails, all while talking about life.
For those whose partner has touch as their primary love language, try directing them to give themselves a self-massage via video call. Have them stroke their face, neck and arms; massage their heads; stretch their muscles.
If you want to turn up the heat, these directives can be applied to doing other intimate activities.
Perfect if your love language is: Quality Time, Touch; possibly Words of Affirmation
Date 4: Paint and have an art jam and wine night
Pull out art supplies and a bottle of wine, and get creative. Charcuterie board optional. Don’t forget to offer your partner words of encouragement throughout! If you’re not sure what to paint, you can check out painting prompts here.
Post-date activity: use a delivery service to swap paintings so you have a little memento of your date night. Or get your friends involved by holding an art-viewing ‘exhibition’ on Zoom.
Perfect if your love language is: Quality Time; possibly Words of Affirmation and Receiving Gifts
Date 5: Go for a drive-through dinner date in your cars
If you live in the same city, head to a drive-through, and get your fav foods. Then, find a romantic spot to park and eat. Face each other and call them to chat as you eat. Bonus: order and pay for each other’s food or take a scenic after-meal drive in separate cars together.
Languages: Quality Time, Words of Affirmation; possibly Acts of Service and Receiving Gifts
“Though it’s difficult to get used to the limited ways we can give and receive love during the COVID-19 lockdown, the human spirit is infinitely creative and resilient.”
Additional Date Ideas:
- Sending them a meal or flowers (order from local businesses around their area)
- Exploring a place together using Google Maps
- Going to a virtual zoo, museum or theme park
- Using the Netflix Party web extension to watch movies together, complete with homemade popcorn in hand
- Cooking or baking the same meal together in your respective kitchens
During this time, it’s more important than ever to communicate with each other and be in touch with our feelings. Make sure emotional and romantic needs are met and remember to be gentle with each other. Stay safe!