By Sekinah Brodie
Some people refer to it as your calling. Some call it your purpose while others call it a gift. Discovering what makes you unique can be incredibly difficult, but it’s not impossible. Here are some things to remember during your journey.
Comparison Is The Thief Of Joy
You’ve probably heard this famous quote before which originated from President Theodore Roosevelt. “Comparison is the thief of joy in simple terms means that comparing yourself to others jeopardizes your own happiness.” This saying holds more weight than ever now with the prevalence of social media displaying the lives of almost everyone we know. Social media allows us all to be whoever we want to be, regardless of our actual life trajectory.
Dr. Jennifer Lawallen spoke on this in Darling Magazine in 2018 and highlighted some of the pros and cons of social media comparison. Dr. Lawallen believes it is a natural human tendency to compare ourselves to others, and in some cases it can provide motivation. In other scenarios, social media comparison can cause us to feel unhappy, angry, and distort our view of ourselves and others. On your journey, remember to focus on the path ahead of you and try your best to avoid distractions as you go.
Purposeful Work Leads to Growth
One of the biggest aspects of an average person’s life is the work that they choose to do. Whether you’re an artist, athlete, teacher, or truck driver, more than likely you spend most of your time at work. Conscious Company reports that people spend about 90,000 hours at work in a lifetime. With this in mind, it is more important than ever, specifically for millennials and Gen Z, to engage in meaningful work.
With all of the benefits of remote and flexible work and the overall landscape of technological advances, people aren’t looking to be tied to any company for 30-40 years. A recent intelligence survey of millennials showed that we value making an impact over money in our careers. With that said, don’t feel bad if you stray away from the traditional career path to find something that better suits your mind and spirit. There is nothing wrong with trying to change the world and using your time here to do so, whether it equates to huge amounts of money or not. People will try to discourage you from making the best decision for your purpose but trust your gut when it comes to something like this.
Using Your Pain for Purpose
It’s safe to say we’ve all experienced adversity of some kind throughout our lives, with some hitting harder than others. As difficult as it is to accept, all of those obstacles do actually help build character and strength. If you’ve ever felt like every bad thing in life was happening to you at once, you were probably right. All of these challenges will be a part of your story one day. One of the greatest books I’ve ever had the pleasure to read is “The Purpose Driven Life” by Pastor Rick Warren. During a period of time when I felt lost, abandoned, and afraid and asking myself why am I here, I came across Pastor Warren’s words. He deep dives into turning pain into purpose and helping others with your message.
“Experience is not what happens to you. It is what you do with what happens to you. Don’t waste your pain; use it to help others.”
It is perfectly okay to go through things, and that will be inevitable as you are finding your calling. However all of these challenges will be of no use if you don’t use it to help someone else along the way.